What Story Are You Telling?
“What you believe is real is mostly imagined, and what you imagine is actually creating what’s real.” – Jody Moore The human mind is a skilled storyteller. We have an estimated 30,000-60,000 thoughts per day, and contrary to what most of us believe, these thoughts are...
Too Blessed to be Stressed?
I’ve never liked the phrase “too blessed to be stressed”. I get the point. Most of us (who live in middle class suburban neighborhoods in a first world country) are so much more blessed than we realize and we spend a lot of time complaining about things that really...
Stop Talking About How Busy You Are
When someone asks you how you are, how often is the answer “busy”? In our culture, we often wear busyness as a badge of honor. We talk about how “busy” we are as though it’s just a fact rather than a highly subjective concept we just made up. Have you ever noticed...
10 Bible Verses About Thoughts and Emotions
I’ve heard pastors criticize self-help (usually stating that we don’t need to help ourselves, we need God’s help). I understand where they’re coming from, and there certainly is a lot of useless, woo-woo self-help advice out there. That being said, I’ve also found...
This Isn’t as Good as it Gets
“I hate it here so I will go to secret gardens in my mind… no mid-sized city hopes and small town fears. I’m there most of the year ‘cause I hate it here.” - Taylor Swift, "I Hate it Here" On Brooke Castillo’s podcast, The Life Coach School, she shared the thought “it...
What We’re Getting Completely Wrong About Mental Health, Part 2
In my last blog post, I talked about how useless much of the internet advice on mental health is. We’re told to “stop worrying” or “stop caring what other people think” but we have no idea HOW to actually do that. We can’t just decide to stop a negative thought...
What We’re Getting Completely Wrong About Mental Health
Do you want to be happier, healthier, or less anxious? If you turn to the internet for tips and tricks, you’ll find plenty of vague, incredibly obvious advice, such as… Stop caring what other people think. Be compassionate with yourself. Stop worrying. You’ll find...
You Can’t Make Other People Happy
How often do you see quotes online about how you can make other people happy? I understand that these are coming from a good place, and I’m all for you being kind to others. But you cannot make other people happy. How other people feel is determined by the thoughts in...
3 Little Words That Change Everything
Thoughts are powerful. We often blame our circumstances for how we feel by saying things “this is so frustrating” or “he made me so mad.” The truth is that your emotions are caused by your thoughts, not the situations in your life. If you’re tired of feeling anxious,...
How to be Nicer to Yourself
Would you talk to your best friend the way you talk to yourself? Most people would NEVER do that. And yet, we tell ourselves self-critical thoughts all day long. Most of us (especially my fellow Type A perfectionists) think that if we’re too nice to ourselves, we...