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You Are NOT the Sum of the Five People Closest to You
“You are the sum of the five people with whom you spend the most time.” Have you ever heard this idea? A LOT of people seem to believe this, and I understand where they’re coming from. It is true that human beings DO have a tendency to mirror one another. If...
Don’t Believe Everything You Think
“When I argue with reality, I suffer.” – Byron Katie Byron Katie is an author who has written several bestselling books, including Loving What Is: Four Questions that Can Change Your Life. Katie says that suffering comes from our thoughts, and she offers a four-step...
Emotions are NOT Contagious
Have you ever heard the phrase “emotions are contagious”? I majored in psychology and this idea that emotions are contagious is something that I remember very well from my classes. The idea is that if somebody else is in a bad mood or a good mood, that will “rub off”...
Self-Care Isn’t What You Think It Is
When you think of self-care, what comes to mind? Do you think about massages, mani pedis, and bubble baths? Those things are all great, but to me, those things are not truly self-care. Self-care is about taking care of your mental health and your mind. If the voice in...
You’re Not Doing Grief Wrong
Do you ever feel like everything that you do or feel is wrong? Have you ever told yourself that you should be handling your grief better? On the flip side, have you ever told yourself that you’re handling your grief too well…that you shouldn’t be happy or that you...
Why Your Mind is Not Your Most Precious Asset
“The things you learn are so important. You can lose your house to a hurricane or lose your job during a corporate restructuring, but what you learn can never be taken from you.” When someone said this recently, I was surprised by how sad I felt. I understand what...
Grief Isn’t Supposed to Look A Certain Way
Five years. I still remember where I was when I got the call. I was on my way home from work and I immediately turned around and drove straight to my parents’ house. I remember how I felt like I was being punched in the stomach…even though I’d seen it coming. We’d...
When I argue with reality, I suffer.
“When I argue with reality I lose, but only 100% of the time.” – Byron Katie We spend a lot of time being frustrated about things we can’t control – situations, other people – instead of focusing on the one thing we can control – which is ourselves. ...
All Problems are Thought Problems
“All problems are thought problems.“ - Jody Moore What if I told you there was a solution that would solve every problem in your life? Brooke Castillo teaches the CTFAR model which states that thoughts create feelings which drive actions which produce results. Tired...
Believe What People Say
Have you ever noticed that we read so much into what people say? The human mind is a skilled storyteller and we are good at reading between the lines. Sometimes this is useful, but there are also plenty of times when it isn’t. We can make up elaborate stories about...
What Story Are You Telling?
“What you believe is real is mostly imagined, and what you imagine is actually creating what’s real.” – Jody Moore The human mind is a skilled storyteller. We have an estimated 30,000-60,000 thoughts per day, and contrary to what most of us believe, these thoughts are...
Too Blessed to be Stressed?
I’ve never liked the phrase “too blessed to be stressed”. I get the point. Most of us (who live in middle class suburban neighborhoods in a first world country) are so much more blessed than we realize and we spend a lot of time complaining about things that really...