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Why Your Mind is Not Your Most Precious Asset
“The things you learn are so important. You can lose your house to a hurricane or lose your job during a corporate restructuring, but what you learn can never be taken from you.” When someone said this recently, I was surprised by how sad I felt. I understand what...
Grief Isn’t Supposed to Look A Certain Way
Five years. I still remember where I was when I got the call. I was on my way home from work and I immediately turned around and drove straight to my parents’ house. I remember how I felt like I was being punched in the stomach…even though I’d seen it coming. We’d...
When I argue with reality, I suffer.
“When I argue with reality I lose, but only 100% of the time.” – Byron Katie We spend a lot of time being frustrated about things we can’t control – situations, other people – instead of focusing on the one thing we can control – which is ourselves. ...
All Problems are Thought Problems
“All problems are thought problems.“ - Jody Moore What if I told you there was a solution that would solve every problem in your life? Brooke Castillo teaches the CTFAR model which states that thoughts create feelings which drive actions which produce results. Tired...
Believe What People Say
Have you ever noticed that we read so much into what people say? The human mind is a skilled storyteller and we are good at reading between the lines. Sometimes this is useful, but there are also plenty of times when it isn’t. We can make up elaborate stories about...
What Story Are You Telling?
“What you believe is real is mostly imagined, and what you imagine is actually creating what’s real.” – Jody Moore The human mind is a skilled storyteller. We have an estimated 30,000-60,000 thoughts per day, and contrary to what most of us believe, these thoughts are...
Too Blessed to be Stressed?
I’ve never liked the phrase “too blessed to be stressed”. I get the point. Most of us (who live in middle class suburban neighborhoods in a first world country) are so much more blessed than we realize and we spend a lot of time complaining about things that really...
Stop Talking About How Busy You Are
When someone asks you how you are, how often is the answer “busy”? In our culture, we often wear busyness as a badge of honor. We talk about how “busy” we are as though it’s just a fact rather than a highly subjective concept we just made up. Have you ever noticed...
10 Bible Verses About Thoughts and Emotions
I’ve heard pastors criticize self-help (usually stating that we don’t need to help ourselves, we need God’s help). I understand where they’re coming from, and there certainly is a lot of useless, woo-woo self-help advice out there. That being said, I’ve also found...
What We’re Getting Completely Wrong About Mental Health, Part 2
In my last blog post, I talked about how useless much of the internet advice on mental health is. We’re told to “stop worrying” or “stop caring what other people think” but we have no idea HOW to actually do that. We can’t just decide to stop a negative thought...
What We’re Getting Completely Wrong About Mental Health
Do you want to be happier, healthier, or less anxious? If you turn to the internet for tips and tricks, you’ll find plenty of vague, incredibly obvious advice, such as… Stop caring what other people think. Be compassionate with yourself. Stop worrying. You’ll find...
You Can’t Make Other People Happy
How often do you see quotes online about how you can make other people happy? I understand that these are coming from a good place, and I’m all for you being kind to others. But you cannot make other people happy. How other people feel is determined by the thoughts in...